"And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them." Romans 8:28

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

Problem Solving Circle

  This seed head is from a purple cone flower.  It represents a lot of potential.  That is what a problem is....a lot of potential.  Potential to enrich, become better, stretch, reach beyond what you are now.
  Many times when there is a problem, it is not perceived as an opportunity, but a time to turn away.  In relationships, when a conflict arises, the parties will turn a cold shoulder, move a way physically or emotionally in order to protect themselves from confrontation.  Yet, it is only when we confront our conflicts that we grow.
  A purple cone flower seed head has hundreds of seeds heading in different directions.  They represent all the solutions that can be created if the seeds are allowed an opportunity to germinate. But if someone snaps it off and throws it away....like when we have a conflict and choose to pretend that nothing is wrong...or walk away from the relationship instead of  rolling up our sleeves to solve the problem...those seeds will produce nothing.
  The next time a conflict comes up between you and someone you love, take a timeout...a breather....a short half hour to calm yourself down.  Then go back in and calmly address the problem you are having with that important person.  Maybe they aren't ready to be calm?  Another half hour perhaps?  Calmly work it out....come up with 10 or 15 other ways to look at it or solve it.  If you can be brave and do this, problems will be solved.  Relationships will be enriched.